I Want to Love Him… But He’s So Far Away

Okay, who are we kidding. Long-distance relationships are not supposed to be easy, because then everyone would be involved in them. However, if we can manage to keep some things in mind and change our mind set just a bit, we can see that making long-distance work is not that bad…not only that, but also that it just might be a little bit of (honest) fun.

What most people think about when they hear about long-distance relationships is failure. Some type of failure. Failure to communicate, failure to stay interested, failure to keep one’s hands off of another man or woman. But it isn’t so. What long-distance is really about is success… succeeding in sacrificing for a special person, succeeding in doing what most people are unable to do: make love work at a distance.

First, however, we have to get one thing straight. In order for a long-distance relationship to work, BOTH parties must be very and equally interested in making this work in the first place. I’ve made long-distance work but only when she was as interested as I am. If you sense any doubt or have any reason to be skeptical about the other person’s commitment, then the harsh reality is that it might not workout. However, if you have both talked and are sure you want to go along, we here at thecollegeguys.com can help you make it happen.

Communication

Being able to send messages to your significant other is crucial but not always so simple. If this is going to work, you’re going to have to do whatever it takes to communicate everything you need to to your special somebody. Try to make it easy on yourself by getting friendly phone plans (free mobile-to-mobile perhaps) and achieve an online presence (online messenger with 30 dollar web cam). Write letters, emails, text messages…mix it up over time and talk about what’s going on, how you feel and other positive things. Never focus on the distance or time, ever. That will promote undesirable sentiment towards your situation.
Also try to talk every so often about your situation. If you to are willing to see other people but stay close, make sure its mutual. DO NOT have close relations with another if your partner only cares about you. This is considered cheating.

Equal Situation

One of the worst things that can happen is for one person in the relationship to be incredibly busy while the other is incredibly bored. This is just asking for trouble. Instead, what is ideal is for both members of this union to share more or less the same kind of schedule. If you’re living at home like a bum it might be hard to make this work if your girlfriend is working to be a doctor at Yale. Interests will change sharply and time will become a factor…what will keep you interested when she has to study for hours tonight and tomorrow, for instance? Instead, if you’re both bums or both studying to save the world, chances for this to work will be higher.

Keep it interesting

Try different things. Save money (key word: sacrifice) so that you can visit him/her or s/he can visit you. Play around with phone sex. Play games. Get creative. Remember, if you’re really serious, it behooves you to be able to keep each other interested in a variety of ways. Expensive gifts and/or sexuality shouldn’t be the only things keeping you together.

Benefits

The benefits to long-distance dating are several. For one, you will not feel suffocated by your partner. You’ll have more time for yourself and for other things that you consider important and wouldn’t have time for otherwise. Also, you will appreciate the time you two DO have together, resulting in meaningful, quality time that other couples will envy.

Just do it

Now there will be a lot of negativity around: people who snicker at you, tell you you’re missing out or crazy…forget that. Just keep doing what you’re doing. If the person is worth it, you will have the last laugh. Everyone wants others to fail to make themselves feel better, so succeed at this and you can rub it in later. Once you two make the decision to go along with this, NOTHING should hold you back except for the interest for and of each other. You’ll have room to do what you need to, and you know that no matter how far, there’s always somone there for you.

 

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2 Most Common Mistakes Men Make in a Bedroom

A very popular book came out sometime back. The book is about ‘revolutionising’ sex. It has many secrets about men and women. The common fears, common mistakes, the difficulties either has during sex, how to enhance your sex lives, and many many more things. I felt very funny when I cam to one section of the book. Its said “10 most common mistakes made by men in a bedroom.” I felt very funny, because these are mistakes I am sure all, I repeat ALL of us have made constantly or at least once. I am not going to tell you about all 10 of them. I am being very selfish here, because I bought the book with my hard earned money and read it because I am interested in improving my sex life with my girl. Now you may have seen many Internet sites highlighting the 10 mistakes. But has any of them explained these mistakes to you, have they told you how to get over them and how to improvise? No. Because these are sites which don’t study the mistakes, they just found them given somewhere and they picked them up and placed them in front of you. So today I am going to EXPLAIN 2 out of the 10 most common mistakes made in bedroom by men. Once you read if you want to know more you can feel free to learn more about your own anatomies.

COMMON MISTAKES ARE AS FOLLOWS:-

ASKING HER WHAT TURNS HER ON.

Haven’t we all done that? Come on don’t you lie to yourself here. We have all made this mistake once or so many times while making love to our woman. The key here is you have to Learn how to communicate! Yes you have to know that women are complicated piece of art and they always go by ‘I want my man to KNOW how to communicate.’ All women say this to their friends or to themselves, that the true soul mate will always know how to communicate with her while making love. Communication is the most important thing in sex lives. So here we make our mistakes. We think ASKING the woman what she likes while loving is communicating with her so she is going to like it.

This is a false belief my friend so get your mind off it. Because 70% of the times you ASK women if they appreciate men asking them you will get an answer “Oh yes, sure we do!” Unfortunately this couldn’t have been more wrong, because you start even believing it. I am sure you have heard that women love a man LEADING on the dance floor? Well you will be shocked to know that women appreciate men LEADING EVEN ON BED. I am sure you would always want to know what she wants, what turns her on and so on apart from just the frequency of position changes. But many women, for the matter of fact find it very hard to tell what they want in bed. This is the case unless you get her to be completely comfortable with you and she feels 100% free to open up to you. According to a book I was reading, the author says “If you just ask her “What turns you on?” you might get a good answer. She might even like it

when you ask her. But there is a strong chance that, on some unconscious level, she will feel a

WEAKNESS in you and be disappointed. ” This author, by the way is a woman herself. So when that is coming from a woman herself, we ought to believe it. This means once the woman sees a certain kind of a weakness in you, she might not be that keen during the intimate encounter that will follow.

The fact lies that A WOMAN WANTS HER MAN TO KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS!

This is the cold truth my friends. Now this can seem very very harsh on you. This is the reason why you either need a STRONG EMOTIONAL bond with her or you need to get her to open herself entirely to you. How do you do that? Well you either break your mind over it, or you just read a book that will teach you. But now you surely know what to do. You know that you need to have a strong emotional bond with your woman and that you need her to herself tell you what she likes and what she dislikes. You know that you have to get her comfortable and you need her to be open with you in order for you to satisfy her. Once you are on the right track you will hear her begging you to do something she likes, she will ask for more and oh the experience will just get hotter and hotter.

NOT KNOWING HOW TO BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE.

This does NOT mean that you are not an attractive man. You can be a very very handsome man with chiselled features. But your appearance sexually is different from you being handsome. A not so handsome man can also be a VERY VERY ATTRACTIVE MAN SEXUALLY. This is yet another cold truth. But most men believe they can’t control how attractive they look. Its a known fact also that every one likes sex better when they are attracted towards their partner.

Sexual arousal flows directly from sexual attraction. So now you know that no matter how attractive you are or you are not otherwise, you have to be most attractive to your woman in bed.

And what most men don’t realize or they don’t know is that how attractive they look in bed that they can control just TOO WELL. Now sexual attraction differs when it comes to a man and woman. There is a lot of difference. We men usually get attracted by the outward appearance of the woman we are with. Something like her breasts, or how pretty her face looks, or curves. Its a known truth that we just need only that to get us attracted to her. But as I have mentioned earlier, a woman is a complicated piece of art. She will not get sexually attracted just my the way you LOOK.

So if its not how you LOOK, then what does a woman mean when she tells a man he is SEXY?

Well obviously here she is not talking about the way you look. A lot of women find Vin Diesel SEXY even though he is not as good looking as Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt. Why is that? Because clearly SEXY is far more to a woman than just a pretty face. Haven’t you ever thought about why really VERY beautiful women usually find an average or below average looking man? I have and I am sure many of other men have also given it a thought not just once but many a times. Frankly I have always thought that Beyonce is a very very pretty woman, but Jay Z? Ah no I don’t think he is a pretty boy. And if you think it is only because these average looking men have a lot of money, then its FALSE! That is so not true. The secret is that that average looking man has a certain sexual attraction than attracts the beautiful woman to him like iron to a magnet. I will tell you why money is not the reason behind the beautiful woman being with a not so good looking but rich man. See they are many many rich men. All DO NOT have beautiful wives. THEY DON’T. So if you think its just the money please do the research and you will know it is just a MYTH that its only money.

Now if its not the LOOKS and its not the MONEY, what does SEXY mean for a WOMAN?

Are you pulling your hair out now thinking what does it actually mean for a woman?

ANSWER: SEXY = A MAN WITH CONFIDENCE + PASSION.

This is a simple yet complicated equation in a woman’s mind and persona that she will find CONFIDENCE with PASSION as SEXY and not LOOKS and MONEY.

Now we have seen many men talking about their confidence, but there is a vast difference between confidence and SEXUAL CONFIDENCE. We hear very few men talking about their SEXUAL CONFIDENCE and even fewer talking about PASSION. And the most unfortunate fact is that most men are embarrassed by their own passion. Its a great shame because women are mover deeply by men’s passion and not just moderately.

The funny thing I read was that MOST men DO feel deeply about things. That means they ARE passionate on the inside. They are just too timid and fearful of humiliation to realize their own passion. Its takes massive CONFIDENCE to be able to display your PASSION. So in short, you can take it as that PASSION is just another form of confidence.

For women, men who can freely display these qualities of confidence and passion are a huge TURN ON in bed. Women feel greatly attracted to a confident man and feel more free to open up completely with them in bed. This in turn allows them to feel more sexually aroused. And this in turn is also a good news for us men. This is because unlike LOOKS and MONEY, which you can’t really do much to change, it is easier to learn a few simple things to dramatically increase the way a woman perceives your level of confidence and passion. Learning how to display them and send the ‘right signals’ is most essential.

Sensual Product Management: Umm, What Do We Need To Know?

So there is no delicate way to talk about this topic, but I’m going to bring it up anyway. As product managers, we’re often not above using sex appeal to motive potential customers to buy our product. However, what happens if the product that we’re trying to sell is sex itself?

Welcome To The World Of Cams And “Tips”

Matt Richtel wrote a story for the New York Times talking about this new market where (primarily) women with video cameras are offering services over the Internet to (primarily) men. It doesn’t take a product development definition to get set up – just a laptop and a video camera. Once these have been secured, the next step is for the women to set up an account on a hub web site such as YourFreeCam or Live Jasmine.

Once that’s been taken care of, the women are then free to put on their own one-woman shows. Web surfers can then drop by their video feed. If a surfer likes what they see, then they can “tip” the model which transfers money from the surfer’s account with the hub site to the model. It appears as though the model gets roughly half of the tip, the hub site keeps the other half.

What caught my attention in Matt’s story is that at any time in the day, he reported that there were over 1,000 of these cam models online. Wow – talk about competition! If this was a product that you were offering, you’d be hard pressed to distinguish your product offering.

Let’s think about this for a minute. You have over 1,000 women all competing for the attention of a limited number of web surfers. You would expect each women to start to specialize (fetishes anyone?) However, even if you did that, there could easily be 100+ other women who had decided to specialize in the same area that you had selected. What’s a cam model to do?

How You Could Do A Better Job Of Marketing Yourself

Although I suspect that none of us are currently working in the cam model business (however, if you are, then welcome), it’s a good product manager exercise to give some thought about how you’d handle this situation even if you’re not going to be adding it to your product manager resume. How could you get more surfers to (1) visit your video feed and (2) tip you more?

The first problem is what is it going to take to get traffic? Step one would be to brand yourself. It probably doesn’t matter what name or tag line you use, just pick one – that will distinguish you from most of the other 1,000 women that you are competing against.

You will have surfers who will organically drop by your video channel. You need to come up with a way to get them to stay, and then to become repeat customers. One way to make this happen would be to “schedule” shows. Tell everyone that something is going to happen on a given date at a given time. When you reach the end of a show, inform your viewers when the next show will be and why they would want to plan on attending. This is almost like what TV shows do with the trailers they have for the next episode.

Finally, you are going to want to maximize your viewer’s tipping. A great way of making this happen would be to use tipping as a communication vehicle. I believe that tipping levels are shown in real time to the cam models. This means that you could ask your viewers what they wanted you to do: A or B. Have them tip for A, then have them tip for B, then whichever tip pool turned out to be larger, perform that action. This way your viewers feel involved and you get to keep all of the tips!

What All Of This Means For You

Although we may not spend a lot of time thinking about it, one of the most profitable products that the Internet is used to sell is sex in all of its wonderful different forms. The recent arrival of self-produced cam shows has opened the door to a flood of new products on this market of Internet sex. The problem is that most of the products all look (pretty much) the same.

From a product manager’s point of view this is a market with low barriers to entry, a lot of unbranded suppliers, and customers who can easily switch suppliers. Clearly this would be an undesirable market to enter if only it wasn’t such a potentially huge and profitable market. Product management skills have to be used to make each performer different from the others. Niche markets have to identified, performers have to create their own brand, and repeat purchases have to be encouraged and rewarded. This is exactly the kind of stuff that shows up in a product manager job description.

No, this may not be the most enjoyable topic to discuss depending on your outlook on life. However, it is clearly a unique market that has a desperate need for the types of skills that product managers can provide. As product managers we need to evaluate these types of market conditions in order to improve how we evaluate challenging product management situations and improve our decision making skills.

Adult Friend Finder Review – Is it Quality?

The following article is an adult friend finder review, geared towards describing the features, positives, and negatives of the dating site. The first thing which should be discussed is that this is an adult dating site, and is strictly for people who are eighteen years of age or older. Also, this site has explicit material which some people may find offensive. With that in mind, if you’d like to learn more about the features of this adult dating site, then read on!

Adult Friend Finder Review

Now Adult Friend Finder has been online since 1996, and now boasts an impressive 23 million registered members. If you are the type of person who is looking for love, or an exclusive and serious relationship, Adult Friend Finder is definitely not for you. The members here are mostly interested in finding casual relationships with people of the opposite or same sex. If you are going to choose a site which deals mainly in “fling” relationships, then you’re going to want the most selection and options possible. With the absolutely massive user base, Adult Friend Finder definitely provides the most selection in people, but how about with features?

Features

Adult friend finder gets a positive review in the features category. They offer all the options someone could ever want in an adult dating website. You can browse photos of people, sorted however you would like them to be. They offer you local searches, searches specific to sex, age, and even body type. You can upload your own photos and there are virtually no limits on the explicit nature of the content. Adult friend finder offers live video chat rooms, which can be private 1 on 1’s or public domain, as well as standard chatting for those who do not have web-cams.

The site allows you to meet people based on desired relationships as well. Simple 1-on-1 sex is the most popular category, but there are literally dozens to choose from. If you are gay, straight, or bisexual, the site can accommodate exactly what you are looking for. They even have options for swingers, voyeurs, fetishes, bondage, and S&M lovers.

Membership

Adult Friend Finder again earns a positive review for their membership structure. You are allowed to sign up completely for free, which gives you access to limited features. The reason we love this site is because their free trial membership allows you to browse other members photos, and even chat and message them! Most sites do not give this out for free.

You can update to a silver membership for $100 or a gold for $150. Each of these memberships brings new advantages. Because they slow the search speeds for the free members, you are granted faster searches as well as expanded options. Also, video chatting is disabled for non-paying members.

Overall

Our overall review of Adult Friend Finder is a positive one. For people who are looking for an online dating site which is adult in nature, this is definitely the top choice. Given it’s naughty nature, the site is susceptible to fake members or people who are running scams. Our recommendation is to be mindful of who you are connecting with and always make sure to screen people for authenticity before divulging too much personal information or setting up a meet up.

Adultery 101 – The Basics and How to Catch Him at it Through Wireless Spy Cams

While 90 percent of Americans believe that adultery is wrong, conservative estimates put about 22 percent of men committing adultery, while 11 percent of women dare to do likewise. If you suspect that your husband is cheating on you, then it is time to gather irrefutable proof. And what better way to do so than by installing wireless spy cams in their favorite meeting place?

But first, brush up on adultery basics. You will need information before jumping to conclusions and decisions.

Adultery Defined

Though there are subtleties in the legal definitions of adultery, it is commonly defined as engaging in voluntary sexual relations with a partner other than your spouse, especially one of the opposite sex.

If your husband is indeed committing adultery, then you need proof that he was not raped because of the voluntary clause. Then again, cases involving men being raped by women are exceedingly rare, so you can cross that out. Even wireless spy cams with their technology will not be able to fake a rape scene.

If your husband engaged in sexual intercourse with the same sex or with animals, then this is not considered adultery in the general understanding of the term. However, some states do grant fault-based divorce on the ground of homosexuality and bestiality being discovered after marriage.

Adultery Caught in the Act at Home

You can install wireless spy cams around the house, especially in his private study where he takes his private calls. Since your husband will not think about these high-tech gadgets being installed without his full knowledge and consent, snooping on his private (and possibly suspicious) conversations is genius!

You can listen in on his side of the conversation and watch his reactions, all without fear that he will hear the telephone click as you lift the receiver. You can glean important information like their meeting time and place, which you can then spy on.

If you are one of the very unlucky few, you can even catch your husband committing adultery right in your home. You will have to deal with the pain of losing both your husband and your best friend, if such is the case. If it was the nanny, then the additional wireless spy cams you had installed provided for unpleasant surprises aside from child abuse.

Adultery Outside the Home

Many acts of adultery are committed in love nests. If you can install wireless spy cams in your husband’s love nest, then go ahead. Not only will you prove sexual intercourse, but you can prove an ongoing emotional relationship that might be your ace in divorce proceedings.

However, you need to consult your trusted lawyer on this matter. Depending on the state you live in and where the adultery is committed, installing wireless spy cams outside your private property can constitute a criminal offense.

Remember that you are setting out to do yourself good, not throw yourself in jail. Your good-for-nothing husband deserves to be in jail while you go scot-free with your conjugal properties and alimonies.